James Van Der Beek partilha reflexão tocante sobre o aborto

James Van Der Beek e a sua mulher, Kimberly, foram recentemente pais. Depois de Kimberly sofrer três abortos espontâneos, o ator decidiu agora partilhar uma reflexão tocante sobre o assunto.

James começou por partilhar a sua história e, posteriormente, falou no conceito de aborto, mais exatamente de “aborto espontâneo” e garantiu que muitas vezes é atribuída uma culpa injusta às mulheres.

"Pelo que aprendi, em todos os casos mais óbvios e extremos, não tem nada a ver com o que a mãe fez ou deixou de fazer. Então vamos limpar toda a essa culpa", escreveu o ator, acrescentando ainda que é “doloroso” perder um bebé e que ninguém deve ser julgado por isso.

O norte-americano falou ainda da relação enquanto casal e garante que esta experiência, apesar de negativa, pode fortalecer a relação e aumentar o desejo de ter filhos.

"Muitos casais tornam-se mais próximos do que nunca. Muitos pais têm um desejo mais profundo por um filho. E muitos, muitos, muitos, casais passam a ter bebés felizes, saudáveis e bonitos”, disse.

 

 

 

 

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Wanted to say a thing or two about miscarriages… of which we’ve had three over the years (including right before this little beauty). First off – we need a new word for it. “Mis-carriage”, in an insidious way, suggests fault for the mother – as if she dropped something, or failed to “carry.” From what I’ve learned, in all but the most obvious, extreme cases, it has nothing to do with anything the mother did or didn’t do. So let’s wipe all blame off the table before we even start. Second… it will tear you open like nothing else. It’s painful and it’s heartbreaking on levels deeper than you may have ever experienced. So don’t judge your grief, or try to rationalize your way around it. Let it flow in the waves in which it comes, and allow it it’s rightful space. And then… once you’re able… try to recognize the beauty in how you put yourself back together differently than you were before. Some changes we make proactively, some we make because the universe has smashed us, but either way, those changes can be gifts. Many couples become closer than ever before. Many parents realize a deeper desire for a child than ever before. And many, many, many couples go on to have happy, healthy, beautiful babies afterwards (and often very quickly afterwards – you’ve been warned 😍). I’ve heard some amazing metaphysical explanations for them, mostly centering around the idea that these little souls volunteer for this short journey for the benefit of the parents… but please share whatever may have given you peace or hope along the way… Along with a new word for this experience. #miscarriage #WeNeedANewName #MoreCommonThanYouHearAbout @vanderkimberly

A post shared by James Van Der Beek (@vanderjames) on Sep 7, 2018 at 3:47pm PDT